Lots going on in June 2018 in Philadelphia to celebrate LGBTQ Pride Month. We’ve included both events that we are organizing (the picnic on the 23rd!) and others that are in the community that we are planning to attend. Hope you can make it to some or all of them!
Pride Month Kickoff and Pride in the Plaza Celebration – Thursday, June 7th 5-8pm
Join the Mayor’s Office of LGBT Affairs as we celebrate Pride Month with a City Hall flag raising ceremony and kickoff party on June 7th!
The official City of Philadelphia flag raising with the Mayor and City Council will occur from 5-6 pm followed by a huge party in the City Hall courtyard 6-8pm featuring food trucks, live performances, DJs, dancing as well as HIV testing, voter registration and legal expungement services!
Family Festival Pride Celebration at the Please Touch Museum – Saturday, June 9th, 9am
The Please Touch Museum is holding their first ever Pride event. Meet up with other PFP families at the torch in the main hall at 9am. RSVP on the Facebook event so we know to look for you! Families needing financial assistance to attend should reach out to email@example.com for discounted tickets.
20th Annual Philadelphia Dyke March – Saturday, June 9th, 3pm
Rally: Kicking it off at 3:00 pm at Kahn Park (11th and Pine streets); Free iced coffee will be available thanks to our friends at Good Karma!
March: Step off and take to the damn streets promptly at 4:00 pm!
After march: Chill in the park and have some free water ice as Philly’s Dyke performers rock the mic for the rest of the day! As always, PDM brings you electrifying speakers and performers, awesome entertainment and of course an opportunity to take over Philly’s streets!
Philly Pride Run 5k and 1.5 miler – Sunday, June 10th, 10:30am
Celebrate Philly Pride 2018 with Philly’s inaugural Philly Pride Run 5K Race AND the original 1.5 miler Fun Run down the historic Pride Parade route in Center City Philadelphia! Click the link for more details. The 1.5 mile race leads the Pride Parade!
Philly Pride Parade & Festival – Sunday, June 10th, 10am-4pm
March with PFP in the Philly Pride parade. Meet up in the area of 13th and Locust at 10:30am. March steps off at 11:30am. Look for the PFP banner and be sure to RSVP on the Facebook event or email us so we know to look for you. The parade route is 1.3 miles long and ends at Penn’s Landing (where you can take public transit or walk back to the beginning or continue into the festival.)
PFP will also again host the Family Zone at the Pride Festival at Penn’s Landing with crafts, books and blocks for kids and a place to rest for adults. Volunteer with PFP to get free admission to the festival! This year’s headline entertainer is Margaret Cho! Email firstname.lastname@example.org to volunteer.
Drag Queen Story Time – Tuesday, June 12th, 4:30pm
Join the Free Library of Philadelphia for one of their many Pride events in June for a drag queen story time at the Fumo Library in South Philly with Brittany Lynn. See the full list of Free Library Events around the city for Pride.
Intergenerational Panel – Wednesday, June 19th, 6pm
This is not to be missed! Hosted at the main branch of the Free Library in the Skyline room, this event will be a discussion on LGBTQIA+ community, history, identity, and what Pride means to folx from a multitude of generations. See the list of other Pride Month events from the Philadelphia Mayor’s Office of LGBT Affairs.
Family Pride Picnic and Arts Festival – Saturday, June 23rd, 11am-4pm, Lovett Park
Join hosts Philly Family Pride, Mt. Airy Art Garage and the Mayor’s Office for LGBT Affairs for a picnic and arts festival in the newly renovated Lovett Park on Germantown Ave. in Mt. Airy as we celebrate pride with crafts, entertainers, FOOD TRUCKS, games, art and more. Special guests include Mayor Kenney, LGBT Affairs Director Amber Hikes, members of City Council and more to be announced. Rain date June 30th. More.
Phillies Pride Night – Thursday, June 28th, 7pm
This year’s Pride Night at Citizen’s Bank Park will take place in a game vs. the Washington Nationals and is sponsored by Giant Food Stores. The first 1,500 fans who purchase tickets to this event will receive a coupon for a Phillies rainbow flag. Click the link above for tickets. PFP families who want to sit together/meet up should email email@example.com. Tickets are discounted $4 when using promo code PRIDE.
Philadelphia Family Pride denounces the hateful rhetoric targeting our families in Representative Daryl
Metcalfe’s letter to Governor Tom Wolf in January 2018.
Rep. Metcalfe’s demand, signed on to by 24 of his colleagues, that birth certificates issued by the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania be changed to specify “Mother” and “Father” instead of the current “Parent/Parent” language serves no practical purpose other than to discriminate against families such as those that comprise Philadelphia Family Pride and other families around the commonwealth.
Birth certificates play a central role in identifying and recognizing who has the legal rights to make decisions for a child and U.S. Supreme Court decisions clearly establish that same-sex couples have equal rights with respect to their children’s birth certificates as opposite-sex couples. Insisting that gendered terminology be used to describe those parents is a waste of the Commonwealth’s time and resources.
Our families are diverse and varied, and the birth certificates of their children should reflect that what matters to our children is the love and support that are what truly makes a family, not the gender of their parents. Philadelphia Family Pride calls on Governor Wolf and other representatives to speak out against these attacks on our families and our children and applauds the steps already taken to ensure that our families are recognized on these important legal documents.
You can find your state representatives here.
Contact Gov. Wolf here.
The list below is an addendum to the “Queer Parenting 101” session facilitated by Philly Family Pride at the Creating Change 2018 Conference in Washington, DC. For suggestions, please comment below or email Stephanie Haynes at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Click this link to download a PDF of the transcribed questions/discussion topics from the session:
Queer Parenting 101 Butcher Block Post-It Note Questions
18 Lesbian Moms We Love on Instagram
A Womb of Their Own
Biff and Trystan
Building Blocks – Interactive Conversations with LGBTQ families
Dad, Daddy & Kids
Darrow Brown and Juan Calvo – Story Corps
The F-Word: A Foster-to-Adopt Story
Family Focus: Jem, Michael and Tia
Gay Parent Magazine
Gayby Maybe Epic Queer Parenting Round Table
Gays with Kids
Julie Chu and Caroline Ouellette welcome baby to family
Kordale & Kaleb
Love Comes First YouTube Channel
My Coming-Out Story: Out and Proud as a Bisexual Mother
New Film Shows Lesbian Families’ Struggles and Resilience in the South
Sandy & Denise
This Amazing Trans Couple Defied The Odds—And Their Doctor—To Conceive A Child
Tess and Nikina’s Story
9 New LGBT Children’s Books Every Kid Should Read Jan. 2018
A Holiday Guide to 2017’s LGBTQ Family Books
Yes, There Are Queer-Positive Children’s Books That Are Actually Good and Not Horribly Depressing
Corey Silverberg’s Books
The Book Nook – Family Equality Council
FINDING YOUR PEOPLE
Family Equality Council
Gay Parent Magazine List of Support Groups
Gay Fathers Facebook Group
Queer Mamas* Facebook Group
Transgender Parenting Facebook Group
Financial Assistance for LGBT Parents to Be
The Ultimate Gay Men’s Guide to Crowdfunding for Surrogacy or Adoption
ACLU – LGBT Parenting
Legal Recognition of LGBT Families – National Center for Lesbian Rights
State LGBT Family Law Guides – National Center for Lesbian Rights
Families – National Center for Transgender Equality
Protecting Your Children – Lambda Legal
Know Your Rights – Transgender Parenting
How Can Midwives Help Queer and Trans Families Feel Safe?
What Do Kids Call Their LGBTQ Parents?
by PFP parent Leigh Braden
On September 21, 2017 I attended a foster parent recruitment meeting at the William Way Center co-hosted by the Mayor’s Office of LGBT Affairs and Philly Family Pride.
This meeting was held to recruit potential foster parents from the LGBTQ community who would provide loving homes to LGBTQ youth. I attended as a representative of A Second Chance Inc., an organization I work with that specializes in kinship care.
The organizers of the meeting had asked a panel of folks to speak about their experiences and share resources with the group – a foster care agency, LGBTQ foster parents and an 18-year old LGBT-identified youth named Frank.
The room fell silent to hear this soft-spoken, sweet, sad kid talk about how hard it had been for him in foster care, how he came to America from Indonesia fleeing persecution for being gay and how he had no family and wanted to be in a family.
He talked about his love for music and how he had to sell his keyboard when he went into care and how he missed feeling comfortable and affirmed. I could feel tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat. I approached Frank after the meeting and asked if we could have lunch together suggesting that maybe I could help him with this situation and find hiim a better home.
Frank agreed and that same week we met. He told me more of his story and how he was in an accelerated high school program in Indonesia and graduated from school early, about the circumstances he lived in while in Indonesia and the kind of fear and discrimination he felt as a sexual minority.
His father died when he was 4 years old and his mother plummeted into poverty and could not take care of her children any more. We talk for a long time. By the end of the lunch, I knew that we were the foster family that Frank needed. I knew that we could give him an affirming home.
My wife Sophie and I talked to our 8 year-old son who loved the idea of having a big brother. We had Frank over for dinner and the decision was made to offer to be his foster family. He said yes and I sprang into action.
We were certified in a month to be foster parents for Frank. This is very fast, but as a person who works in the field I knew exactly what we needed to do and how to get it done quickly.
Frank moved into our home October 27, 2017.
He has integrated into our family and we care about him. He is neither soft-spoken nor sad anymore. He is a teenager, which is fun and frustrating all at the same time.
Frank is applying to colleges for the fall of 2018. I am teaching him how to drive, and Sophie and I are learning how to parent a teenager. Every day Frank sits at the piano in our home and makes beautiful music. We have high hopes for him and his future.
If you live in Pennsylvania and are interested in becoming a foster parent for LGBTQ youth, contact Leigh at email@example.com.
On Thursday, March 30, Philadelphia City Council unanimously passed a resolution declaring March 31st Transgender Day of Visibility in the city.
“WHEREAS, One million Americans are transgender and have bravely overcome significant hardships to build vibrant and thriving communities, often in the face of systemic and interpersonal prejudice, discrimination, and violence; and
WHEREAS, We cannot simply celebrate visibility without also recognizing that it does not always equal justice; still far too many Trans people, in particular Trans women of color, continue to face profound threats to their safety and wellbeing; and
WHEREAS, Already this year we know of eight Trans women of color who were murdered — Jaquarrius Holland, 18 years old; Ciara McElveen, 21 years old; Chyna Gibson, 31 years old; Keke Collier, 24 years old; JoJo Striker, 23 years old; Mesha Caldwell, 41 years old; Jamie Lee Wounded Arrow, 28 years old; and Alphonza Watson, 38 years old — for each Trans person killed or lost this year and in years past we mourn, we honor, and we say their names; and
WHEREAS, We also celebrate the beauty and resilience of Trans people through history and of those who are with us today, and we recognize that Trans people have contributed and continue to contribute in myriad ways to the betterment of our society and our city, often working at the forefront of social justice activism and human rights work; and
WHEREAS, Trans people, and in particular Trans women of color including Sylvia Rivera, Miss Major, and Marsha P. Johnson, were instrumental in the creation of the modern gay rights movement in the United States, from the 1965 Dewey lunch counter protests in Philadelphia to the Stonewall riots in 1969 to the creation of radical new civil rights organizations;…”
Read the full resolution here. (PDF)
Thanks to the hard work of Philadelphia Office of LGBT Affairs, Councilwoman Helen Gym and City Council to speak out, advocate, and support this resolution.
Transgender Day of Visibility is another step towards ensuring the equal protection, safety, and full dignity of our transgender friends and neighbors.
Here is a transgender and gender nonconforming reading list of books for all ages.
Pictured is the group at the City Council press conference on March 30th after the passage of the resolution.
While learning about the history of black and brown people shouldn’t just be relegated to one month a year, PFP wanted to take this opportunity to offer some book lists, an upcoming event and a couple of new books for Black History Month.
First, be sure to check out The 25th Annual African-American Children’s Book Fair this Saturday, February 4th at the Community College of Philadelphia from 1-4pm. The fair is one of the oldest and largest single-day events for African American children’s books in the country. On average, over 3,500 people from across the nation attend.Now for some relevant book lists:
Brown Sugar & Spice Books Elementary School Collection
Free Library of Philadelphia: Black Lives Matter, Elementary School
Free Library of Philadelphia: Martin Luther King, Books for Children
GoodReads Civil Rights Books for Children
GoodReads Picture Books for Black History Month
See below for a couple of books that are new. If you have other favorites, please join our Facebook group and make your suggestions to this list on there.
March by John Lewis
March, a graphic novel trilogy, is a vivid first-hand account of Georgia Congressman John Lewis’ lifelong struggle for civil and human rights, meditating in the modern age on the distance traveled since the days of Jim Crow and segregation. Rooted in Lewis’ personal story, it also reflects on the highs and lows of the broader civil rights movement.
The Youngest Marcher: The Story of Audrey Faye Hendricks, a Young Civil Rights Activist, by Cynthia Levinson
Audrey was just 9 years old in 1963, during the civil rights protests in Birmingham, Ala., but that didn’t stop her from standing up and speaking out against racial segregation. Learn how her confidence and bravery made a difference.
Finally, if you plan to purchase these books, please consider doing so locally at bookstores such as Bindlestiff or Big Blue Marble. If you order on Amazon, please select Philadelphia Family Pride as your Amazon Smile organization. Thank you!
Philadelphia Family Pride, a local nonprofit group for LGBTQ parents, prospective parents, grandparents and their children, expanded the board of directors for 2017 from 10 to 16 members at a meeting in late December. The new board was elected at the group’s annual New Year’s Day Brunch at Congregation Mishkan Shalom on January 2. The new board held its first meeting on January 29 and discussed goals and plans for the year.
Kelly Durand is in her second year as Board Chair. Vice-Chair Sandra Telep in her fourth year in that role
All of the 2016 board members carried over into 2017 including Gina Cline, who will now be the group’s Secretary, Sandy DiBerardino who will remain as Treasurer and commitee chairs Gregory Hedler (Membership) and Paula Estornell (Education and Advocacy). Other board members staying on will be in “Member at Large” slots, including Bryan Berchok, Gregory Yorgey-Girdy, Joel Nichols and Nijah Newton-Famous.
The board has six new members for this year: Phyllis Chamberlain, Events Planning Committee Chair, Terinae Holland, Fundraising Committee Chair and Members at Large Adam Podowitz-Thomas, Angel Brice, Ruby Augustus and Tariem Burroughs.
“With 100% retention from 2016 and more people interested in joining the board, we wanted to expand the number of board members. This will also allow PFP to hold more events and reach more LGBTQ parent communities in 2017,” commented Board Chair Kelly Durand.
For more information and a schedule of upcoming events, please visit www.phillyfamilypride.org and look for us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
Welcome to all the folks visiting Philadelphia this week for Creating Change 2017! If you brought your kids, Philly Family Pride, the regional LGBTQ parents group, has a few tips for you on where to take the little (and not so little) ones. All are LGBTQ-parent friendly. First we’ll go through 5 indoor places for those under five and then five places for the older kids.
Feel free to email PFP director Stephanie Haynes with questions at firstname.lastname@example.org.
5 places for under the under 5 set
It’s chilly, so we’re starting with three indoor places to keep warm and have fun.
Philadelphia Family Pride’s annual membership meeting will take place as part of our January 2nd Potluck Brunch on Monday, Jan. 2nd, from 11am-2pm at Mishkan Shalom, located at 4101 Freeland Ave. in Philadelphia.
The annual meeting will consist of informal conversations about plans for 2017 and election of board members for the new year.
As required in our bylaws, this email serves as notice for the annual meeting as well as the seven day notice required before the board can vote to make the following changes to the bylaws.
In an effort to expand the amount of work PFP can take on, the current PFP board is proposing to amend the bylaws and expand the number of seats on the board of directors from the current 10 members to 16 members for 2017 and beyond.
All 10 board members from 2016 are interested in staying on for 2017. The returning board members are:
– Bryan Berchok
– Gina Cline
– Gregory Hedler
– Gregory Yorgey-Girdy
– Joel Nichols
– Kelly Durand
– Nijah Newton-Famous
– Paula Estornell
– Sandra Telep and
– Sandy DiBerardino
The new board members nominated for 2017 are:
– Adam Podowitz-Thomas
– Angel Brice
– Phyllis Chamberlain
– Ruby Augustus
– Tariem Burroughs and
– Terinae Holland
Note that while we are adding all six of the new board positions as “members at large” our plans are to pair people with committee chair positions to spread the responsibilities and knowledge of the organization.
Here are the details of the four proposed changes. (Find our current bylaws here.)
1. The last sentence of Article IV, Section 1 currently reads: “…The board shall have ten directors, directly elected in the following positions:”We propose changing that sentence to: “The board shall have sixteen directors, directly elected in the following positions:”
2. In the same section Article IV, Section 1, change “Member at Large (2)” to “Member at Large (8)”.
3. The last sentence of Article IV, Section 5 reads “Members at Large will be elected on a single ballot and all members will be eligible to vote for two candidates for that position. ”We propose changing that to read “…vote for eight candidates for that position.”
4. Article IV, Section 6 (Quorum) says that “At least five board members must be present for quorum to permit business transactions to take place and motions to pass.”We propose changing that to read “At least nine board members must be present for quorum…”
Thank you, and we look forward to seeing you at the Jan. 2nd brunch!Kelly
Chair, Board of Directors
Philadelphia Family Pride
Philadelphia Family Pride will hold our 7th Annual Family Matters Conference for LGBTQ parents, prospective parents and our kids of all ages on Saturday, October 29, 2016 from 9:00 am – 4:00 pm in the McNeil Science and Technology Center at the University of the Sciences in West Philadelphia near Clark Park.
Thank you to those who have already registered. If you haven’t already but plan to attend, please register now!
The deadline to register kids is Friday, October 21.
What’s going on for kids that day? Let’s start with the little kids.
For those 0-6 years old, we just confirmed that St. Mary’s Nursery School in West Philly will be providing their staff to play with those age groups on site at the conference.
In addition to crafts, games, blocks and some outside time, there will also be a music class appropriate for all – babies to school kids – from 12-12:45pm courtesy of the folks from Rhythm Babies.
For kids, tweens and teens 7-18 years old, we are very excited to welcome staff from COLAGE, well known for their programming during Family Week in Provincetown.
The day of programs provides opportunities for creativity, recreation and deep discussion while providing a safe environment to connect with other youth about challenges and joys they experience being part of an LGBTQ family.
COLAGE has found in over 20 years of providing youth programming, that regardless of a youth’s interests, personality, or experiences, they will have a positive and powerful experience connecting with each other through their programming.
Read more about what COLAGE has planned for the day here.
The end of the day, from 3-4pm, we will hold the COLAGE Panel: Voices of People in LGBTQ Families. This is an opportunity to hear and learn from our COLAGEr panel about their experiences growing up in an LGBTQ+ family or with a parent coming out.
Everyone is welcome and will have an opportunity to ask questions,and create dialogue around the topics that are discussed during the day’s workshops. This is always a powerful COLAGE program so we encourage you to stay, ask questions, and listen.
Thank you and don’t forget to register by October 21!